tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60634476352135921802024-02-07T16:54:10.836-08:00Matters of the Mind. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-37148760652183198802016-09-22T19:08:00.001-07:002016-09-22T19:12:52.381-07:00Are they Toxic?<div dir="ltr" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: UICTFontTextStyleTallBody; font-size: 17px;">
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The definition of toxic is poisonous. Oftentimes in our lives we will encounter toxic people. A toxic person is one whom brings nothing but strife into your life. They are emotionally abusive, selfish and often unstable in their own lives. When a person is pegged to be toxic they bring nothing good into the relationship and if you allow <a href="http://them.to/">them to</a> stay long enough they will bring the once happy and joyous you down to their level of toxicity. As we get older and more mature we learn the character of those that are in our circle and depending on who the person is we sometimes allow the toxic ones to stay much longer than God intended. When allowing a toxic person to stay in your space longer than needed things will come up missing such as your sanity your self esteem and your confidence. These things go missing because the toxic person is poisoning your spirit and oftentimes making you believe things about yourself that's not even true causing you to second guess yourself so they can continue to poison you with their venomous words and actions. Once they know they have you they continue to poison your spirit until there's nothing left and then they make you feel like it was your fault. Toxic people are very crafty at playing the victim. They like to place blame on others by redirecting their guilt onto you. For example they tell a lie you catch them in the lie and they call you crazy for approaching them with it in the first place.You must be careful when dealing with these type of people because they can also be very charming witty and good with words this is how most every one get caught in the toxic persons trap. They say all the right things but does something totally different. They seduce people with their words all the while never intending to make good on anything that they are saying and if you should ever challenge them they will always have an excuse as to why they didn't do it and sooner or later you get used to the excuses and become tolerable of their foolishness.Once they know your going to tolerate them the sky's the limit on how much chaos they will bring into your Life. Until you recognize them as being toxic you will put up with it not even realizing what's going on which keeps you attached longer than you were destined to stay. You will know they are toxic by some of the conversation you engage in. If they are always complaining and never have a solution to their problem and somebody else is always to blame TOXIC. If they make everything about them never considering your feelings TOXIC. If they always bring confusion and drama into your space with never any positivity TOXIC. If they disappoint you more than they make you happy TOXIC if your always feeding into them and they are always taking from you TOXIC.These are all tell tale signed of being connected to a toxic person. I encourage you to take heed to these clues and act accordingly. We can sometimes be in denial about whether or not we are dealing with a toxic person and when they should be released. Life is too short to waste on toxic people who are only capable of poisoning your soul. These people even if they are family should not be welcome to waltz in and out of your life at their leisure boundaries must be set with them and remember just because you're in denial doesn't mean it's not happening. Check your circle if you sense toxic remove yourself it will be one of the best decisions you ever made.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-21153043354966153152016-09-22T19:05:00.001-07:002016-09-22T19:05:24.904-07:00Why it's important to hold people accountableOnce you realize that you do indeed have total control over your life you learn that you do have the right to hold people accountable for the titles they claim to hold in your life when we assign a title to a person its their responsibilities to behave in ways that compliment the title. So often we give people titles and learn that they not even capable of holding up their end of the commitment. Holding people accountable doesn't mean you have to be overly critical of them or judgmental it just means that you have a standard and if they are going to be a part of your life in the capacity that they are portraying that there's a certain behavior that must be presented and if they can't present that behavior then you have the right to revoke the title and remove this person from your circle. We have grown accustomed to giving people the benefit of the doubt holding on to people much longer than we should and excusing it by thinking this is how we're supposed to behave not true. I do believe it's true that we are to love everyone with the love that God has placed in us to love them with and holding them accountable is a wonderful way to show them love. <br /> As a life coach I was trained to be an accountability partner that's one of the many exciting thing about life coaching you're not a therapist you're not a psychologist and you're not there to solve any one's problems you're just there to hold them accountable so during my training I've learned how to be an effective accountability partner and listen closely to what's being said as well as what's not being said. In my personal life that has not always turned out to be good for others because now I'm trained to hold them accountable for their roles in my life where years ago I didn't know that I was supposed to. Holding a person accountable does not mean you get to tell them about themselves and tell them everything that they do wrong all you have to do is sit back and observe exactly what they're doing and how they treat you when you find that the treatment does not match with the role that they're supposed to be playing at that time you have the right to speak to them about it this does not have to be done and a critical or attacking way. The tone you use will set the atmosphere for how a person receives what it is that you're saying to them. When you begin to hold people accountable you will experience negative feedback you will be accused of being judgemental you will be accused of being critical but as long as you pray about everything that you say before you say it to a person and you monitor the tone of voice that you're using the person that you speaking to can received the information better but if they can not that doesn't mean your still not supposed to hold them accountable it just means you have to find a way to relay the information to them so they can understand it. If you're not used to holding people accountable when you start the beginning may prove to be a little difficult because for some reason we forget how much power we really do have over our own lives and we often times give that power up to people who never showed themselves accountable for the title that was given to them. Holding people accountable is a giant step to total peace and restoration of your soul I say this because when you hold things in and you allow people to treat you any kind of way when the time comes that you really need those people they won't be able to help because you never held them accountable from day one. Sometimes it takes years and lifetimes for people to come to this realization so once you come to it and know that you indeed have the power to hold people accountable then you can start to practice it and your life will never be the same again.You will see positive changes coming from all directions the people that didn't know how to treat you at one time will be treating you like gold. And the people that weren't supposed to be there in the first place will vanish. <br /> Once you realize you have control over your life and who is allowed to be in it miraculous things will begin to happen do yourself a favor today hold somebody accountable for their role in your life they might not like it but your spirit will thank you.<b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup><strike></strike>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-83487906765925161142016-07-17T22:27:00.001-07:002016-07-17T22:33:08.987-07:00Generational curses...break them or they will break you<div dir="ltr">
When we choose to become products of our environment and the environment is toxic, a generational curse begins to form. Generational curses derive from individuals who continue bad habits that were formed in their family years earlier. Because of the intensity of a generational curse its important that once you recognize a behavior as being a generational curse someone must step in and break it because if they don't the dysfunction will just continue on.The problem is oftentimes people become comfortable living in the curse so they don't attempt to break it. For example alcoholism can be classified as a generational curse. If a child grows up in a house where all the adults drink liquor throughout the day chances are when they become adults they either end up in homes with alcoholics or they become alcoholics. Why ? because if every time your child sees you your drinking a alcoholic beverage then they will grow up thinking well my parents did it so it must be OK for me to do it. This behavior will continue until somebody realizes that its wrong and they refuse to carry on the curse.Once you refuse you begin to display behaviors opposite of what the curse projected and that is when the curse is broken.<br />
Another example of a generational curse is laziness and not wanting to work.Grandaddy didn't work or he sold drugs and they never seen daddy go to work cause he sold drugs then the kids will think its cool to not work and sell drugs.GENERATIONAL CURSE. The great great grand mother didn't work the great grand mother didn't work the grand mother didn't work and now here are a different set of kids coming up being groomed that they don't have to work to earn a living. GENERATIONAL CURSE. To grow up with the belief that working for what you want and being a responsible adult is not necessary is a wrong thought process but if nobody in the equation has been taught to do better and make changes the curse will continue. Its very important to study your families background and the family backgrounds of those we become intimate with because once you bring kids into the world its open season for generational curses to continue through your kids. Once the kids are here you can't change the family background but you can break the curse by making the behaviors unacceptable through your children .If you see that laziness is a family trait and your raising boys don't allow them to be lazy. Give them responsibilities that will guide them out of the curse And into a healthy way of living.The key to breaking generational curses is awareness of the problem and a passion to make changes in what has proven to be a detriment to many families. Generational curses are the downfall of many people and the reason for a lot of the bad behavior that people display in their lives and in their relationships. Do yourself and your love ones a favor and pay attention to the generation curses that linger in your family we all have them and once you pin point a action as a generational curse make it your mission to break it so it can't complete another cycle.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-44368504888594564052016-06-07T21:46:00.000-07:002016-06-07T21:46:37.744-07:00Is she less than a mother?<br />Just as a women should be careful of what type of men she brings around her kids so should men be careful of the type of women he brings around his kids.Just because she gave birth to a child it doesn't make her a mother. Mothers nurture, sacrifice and put there kids needs in front of hers. A mother serves as a constant advocate for her kids well being even if it means she has to suffer a little in the process. Mothers are attentive to their children and makes decisions based on the best interest of her child. Women that put men in front of their kids, spend more time with a man than she does with her adolescent children and allowing their selfishness to put their own desires in front of the kids well being are not mothers they are simply egg donors. They had sex the man fertilizes her eggs and she became pregnant this process doesn't guarantee good parenting it just simply says a child has been born into the world because their parents didn't use the proper protection.<br /> Egg donor: a woman who boar her kids for reasons other than her genuinely wanting to be a mother. She had kids because the man she was sleeping with at the time wanted kids or because she thought having a child would keep the man around. There is absolutely no maternal instincts in this woman. The kids are here and she has to deal with them but the manner in which she deals with her kids prove she's not maternal. You can tell if she's just a egg donor once you monitor her actions where her kids are concerned. Here are a few ways to detect a egg donor and or sperm donor<br />
<br />1. The kids are never with them<br /> 2. When they have the kids they are paying them no attention<br /> 3. Their women / men come before their kids<br /> 4. They fit the kids into their schedule rather than planning their schedule around her kids.<br /> <br />
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a message to the guys: If you are good parent to your kids be careful not to attach yourself to a egg donor because she will eventually have you treating your kids in the same manner as she treats hers.<br />
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<a name='more'></a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-2393256038231311302016-04-13T18:51:00.001-07:002016-04-13T18:51:42.600-07:00Soul ties how they are created and how you break them<span style="color: #454545; font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody;">Sharing your soul with another person (through sexual union) creates a tie. The deepest soul tie is forged when two people engage in sexual intercourse and become one flesh. Often that tie is a hard knot to untangle. Even though we can’t see it, a commingling of the souls occurs. Depending on the individual you will either create a toxic soul tie or a healthy spiritual one , “’And the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh.’” (Mark 10:8)</span><br />
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When you incorporate sex in a relationship before marriage you negate your rights to getting to know the person from the INSIDE out and that's the part that's needed so you can make a sensible choice about whether or not your creating a healthy soul tie and if the person your dating is worth your time and most importantly if they are mental and emotion stable. When you have sex too soon in a relationship you turn your focus to the physical aspect of the person and turn away from the mental aspect. People show you who they are when you first meet them and if you take time to learn their personality before incorporating sex into the equation you most often will find your not even compatible with the person or they may have some personal or emotional issues that your unable to deal with. Once sex takes reign over the relationship people tend to become blinded by the reality that the person their involved with has some deep emotional issues and then it's hard to break away. The sex is so good and your getting the attention you crave. This is how crimes of passion evolve and tv shows like snapped and fatal attraction can create so many episodes this is why the bible says sex should only be done under the covenant of marriage because if done this way you have taken the time to learn a person internally and learn to love them enough to make a commitment to them before GOD and once you've learned to love someone from the inside out from the beginning the physical connecting only intensifies and makes it that much better. Most people refuse to wait because they have developed the mindset of "what if were not sexually compatible?" Sex is what you make it. If there is a area in your sex life that's not fulfilling to you it's up to you and your mate to make it pleasurable for the both of you. As long as both parties are willing to put their one hundred percent into making sure each other is satisfied that shouldn't be the issue. Before you decide to give yourself away in a sexual encounter consider the risks of possibly being blinded by this person that you may not even know well enough to have a intelligent conversation with. Sex feels good while your in the act but after your done the remnants of the act will follow you and if your not careful it can be in the form of a unhealthy unnecessary time wasting relationship. Breaking a unhealthy soul tie can be done but once you've connected it's sometimes difficult to break the tie. If you feel your in a unhealthy soul tie with someone first start by praying and asking God to remove those from your life that don't have your best interest at heart once you do this just watch and see how God works on your behalf and you slowly but surely regain your peace and freedom. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-86952765528632600182016-03-03T22:01:00.002-08:002016-03-03T22:01:10.998-08:00How to free yourself from a fool<br />
<span style="color: #454545; font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody; font-size: 17px;">In life you must be very careful when seeking advice from other people because there are fools lurking in every aspect of your world. You have fools in your family, you work with fools ,you have attended school with some fools and some are even tied into business and marriages with fools . Being able to determine whether or not a person is a fool is determined by your level of discernment. The Christian connotation of Discernment described it as as a gift from the Holy Spirit that in the absence of judgement gives you the ability to obtain spiritual direction in certain matters so that you can use godly direction when dealing with them. Discernment can also simply mean the ability to judge well. This is what will help you to dissect whether or not a person is a fool or if they are speaking knowledge and wisdom. </span><br />
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Romans 1:22 states some people will claim to be wise and profess to be smart but their foolish ways made simpletons of themselves. Some people are masters of manipulation they know how to use words to manipulate people into thinking they are speaking intelligently when in reality their words will never match their actions why? Because they are not capable of doing the things they speak about. They are delusional and their plan is to keep you trapped into their web of foolishness, untruths and blatant lies. This is what classifies them as fools. A fool is basically a person that lacks proper judgment and common sense. Therefore we should not associate ourselves with people that express these traits. In order to classify them as a fool you must take time to listen to them and then allow more time to monitor their actions its at that time of patience you learn their words don't match the actions and now you have proof that you have a fool in the midst. It's never wise to allow the fool to run rampant in your life you must let them go and allow them to remain foolish some where else. If you let them go early it's not such a hard task but if you ignore the obvious red flags that are alerting you to the foolishness you can get stuck and find it more difficult to get away and then you will start to try and "fix them" Proverbs 16:22 states giving instructions to a fool creates folly(more foolishness) . A fool can't be fixed by anyone other than God. Let them go pray for them and keep it moving. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-30064327974409698722016-02-16T13:40:00.003-08:002016-02-16T19:33:06.491-08:00open letter from the one who let you get awayI know I'm not on your level and I have a ways to go until I can get there. I promised myself I wouldn't come after you until I could give you a 110% of what you deserve. I know you've done a great deal of growing and I can see the change in you. I was trying to keep up but somewhere along the ride I fell off the bike. I'm not going to step to you and interfere your greatness because I know your not going to put up with me. I know what I'm bringing to the table does not meet your standards. So in the meantime I will go out and I will find women that have not yet found their worth and don't require much in a mate. their only requirement is that I show up and be a warm body in the bed next to them and in exchange they will cater to me and adore me even in my foolishness. With these women I don't have to do much work. I will convince them that I love them when I really don't.These type of women don't put much focus on actions so all I have to do is show up say a few kind words make some empty promises and take what they are giving me. I will use them and fake love them until they either get tired or I get tired of faking. My heart will always be with you because your the one I love I realized I messed things up with you and I will always regret that but my inability to be with myself and take time to heal keeps me searching for and choosing poor replicas of you. I cant believe I'm saying these things but I need to be honest with you. for some reason my conscious always kicks in where you are concerned. I wont take up anymore of your time just continue to pray for me and one day maybe I can grow to be the man you needed me to be and that God designed me to be.<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-80306912563000983892016-02-11T20:56:00.001-08:002016-02-11T20:56:32.620-08:00The dangers of dealing with emotionally unavailable peopleMany people are physically available but not as many are emotionally available and when you desire both but chose to settle for one the relationship will not be sturdy because the foundation on which it was built was shaky from the beginning. God says he will give us the desires of our heart but after we ask him we must be diligent and patient in waiting for HIM to deliver because if impatience sets in and you get tired of waiting for HIM you will choose somebody on your own and if you choose a emotionally unavailable person you will never get the desires of your heart fulfilled. You'll get something but its not going to be what you desired. Its easy to be physically available all you have to do is simply just show up. Your body is there and its doing the physical thing that you desire. The emotional piece is different to be emotionally available you must be free of all emotional attachments to the lovers and mates from your past. How can you tell if someone is emotionally unavailable? When they speak often of a person in their past as if they are not over the relationship. When they are still dealing with and entertaining drama concerning a past relationship and they can't seem to get past it this normally is a red flag that they are still emotionally tied to this person. When dealing with a emotionally unavailable person you must understand that because they are still partially tied to a completely different person they can't be fully tied to you. Emotional attachment means their heart still belongs to another person and two people cant have one persons heart. You know their heart doesn't belong to you when they still feel the need to protect the other person and no matter what this person does they continue to entertain them this doesn't make you a bad person it just makes you not yet fully available to a person that's whole and emotionally available. When you realize your not emotionally available you should take some time to self reflect and focus on getting past the hurt that keeps you emotionally tied to another person and work on releasing it so that you can one day show up in a relationship being a whole person and not just the physical half. <br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-59243290495821390612016-02-03T14:23:00.001-08:002016-02-03T14:23:14.181-08:00 did you pick them or Did God send them ?When a woman reaches a place in life where she is tired of making wrong choices in men and doing it her way and she desires a real meaningful relationship she will seek God for help. She will get to the place where she begins to pray and ask God to send her a man. The tricky part in praying and asking God to send you people you must first have a relationship with God meaning you talk to him daily not just when you want something and when you talk to him you have the capacity to hear the small still voice speaking back to you. Once you reach this level you then must also realize just as God hears you so does the devil.When we pray and ask God for a mate we automatically assume he is the only one who hears us so as soon as we are approached by a man who we are physically attracted to we automatically think its from God this is not always the case.When we think God has answered our prayer we tend to let our guard down. We may say to ourselves " I prayed for a man here he is so God must have sent him and he must be the one for me".This may seem true in the very beginning so we choose this person and pursue a relationship with them. As your getting to know them if your truly connected to God in a intimate way and this person is mr wrong God will send the red flags that's proof he didn't construct this union but if your not in tune with listening to him and your more focused on what your flesh is saying you will ignore the red flags. Red flags are sent to warn you that something is not quite right with a person. They are the signs that show you that your not equally yolked. Sometimes we will see that we're not equally yolked but we will stay thinking we can change the person or the person will eventully change. This is not the person that was sent by God. When God sends our mate there will be no change required he will make sure that they are equipped with everything needed to be the ideal mate designed just for you. Choosing to stay with a person that God didn't send you will lead you down a road of frustration and misery. Once you get fed up with choosing the wrong people and start relying on God to place people in your life this is when you'll start to entertain the right people and the wrong people will fall away. This is when life gets exciting. Now is good time to evaluate your relationships and ask yourself did I pick them or did God send them. Once you get the answer be gentle with yourself and take the necessary steps to make things right.<br />
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<span style="font-family: "calibri";">She realizes she had discernment when people from her past would
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them advice about turned out to be true. When people would say to her I should
have listened to you because you were right. It was then that she realized what
she had something very special and she had to be careful because if not handled correctly and dealt with in the
correct mindset it would lead to the frustration of trying to convince people
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<span style="font-family: "calibri";"> She was learning when
her discernment showed her something it wasn't always for her the share. When
you try to convince people of things that they are not yet ready to receive you
will be viewed as being bitter, judgmental, critical, and mean. although the
information your speaking may be true if a person is not in the mindset to receive
it they may attack you with hurtful words. Initially she was offended but later she
decided to use it as a teachable moment and figure out why they felt this way
about her. She knew deep in her spirit she wasn't any of those things. She
definitely wasn't being judgmental because much of the advice she had given out
to people was about things that she had experienced herself and it proved not
to be fruitful or beneficial to her. She was merely trying to help them out so
that they wouldn't have to go through what she went through. She couldn't
understand how that was coming across as judgmental until it was revealed to her
the information that she was revealing was only supposed to be for her. This
was information God had download to her for her own personal healing it wasn't
necessarily meant to share with others.
This is where she made her mistake they became offended because she was
delivering the message prematurely. The offense set in because they were not at
a place spiritually where they were ready to receive what she was saying. She
finally came to the realization that everything was not meant to be repeated
everything that she knew other people may not have been ready to receive it.
Once she started to own that important piece of knowledge she began to monitor
what she said to people and how she said it and suddenly she wasn't so amped up
to tell people about themselves and what she knew about them. She got quiet and
allowed silence and prayer to speak on her behalf.</span></div>
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more often than none God will show you things about people not for you to run
and tell everybody but he shows you these things about certain people so you
can deal with the person. How others view them or see them is none of your business.
God shows you certain characteristics about people that it may take others
years to see. This doesn't mean that you must convince the world of their
character flaws. it’s information that God has downloaded to your spirit so
that you can deal with the person in the manner that you need to. Discernment
is not a tool given to place judgement on others it’s a gift from God that if
used properly will allow you to live a life free from malice because your gift
has showed you everything you need to know. I encourage you to pray for
discernment and the wisdom to deal with it properly and I promise you won't be
disappointed by the results.</span></div>
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Factual speakers speak only on the facts anything that they say they have proof to back it up. They mainly speak on things that they have gone through in their life or things that others have gone through which means they have knowledge of what they're talking about .They don't make things up they speak only from what they see and how they perceive it.<br />
Fictional speakers will often times create a atmosphere that can only be seen by them it's not real it's a delusion or an illusion of a portrait they have painted about their lives. How do you determine whether not a person speaks fictional or factual? <br />
As you pay attention to their actions and you watch how they live this will show you if what they're saying is true or false once you realized a person is a fictional speaker you no longer take to heart anything that they say because chances are its not true these are the people you should detach yourself from, It's not that you think you're better than them it's just that they're thinking pattern is dysfunctional and if you continue to entertain them it could cause you a great deal of frustration.<br />
The safest person to attach yourself to is the factual speaker someone that speaks the truth and only speaks on facts this person will be honest with you they will be truthful with you and although you may not like it at times it's usually something that you need to hear that will aid in your growth and maturity. This is the type of relationship that you take with you to the next level this is the person that will not sugarcoat anything. They will tell you exactly what you need to hear. Is this person perfect? absolutely not they make mistakes and have made mistakes but chose to learn from them. The wisdom that they are bestowing upon you is something good and will bring forth good fruits to your life this is the person you want to keep around. Lose fictional and gain factual.<br />
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different levels of mental and personality disorders. When gone undiagnosed
these people enter into relationships with normal people with normal minds and
those bonds create toxic situations. Once the normal person gets sucked in the
representative disappears and the disordered mate begins to show signs that
they are 50 shades of crazy. The red flags begin to wave to you but at this
point your so blinded by the lust that you can't see the flags so you sit in
it. Day by day the crazy gets more intense the lies come more frequently. You
know their untrust worthy yet you continue to pour more of your attention into
them. You will normally find yourself in this place if you have sex with them
sooner than that you should. Sex especially if it’s good will further blind
you. The crazy person is well aware of this and that’s why they move so quickly
in the romance department. they have now manipulated your mind and your body.
You know there’s something wrong but they convince you that its right. You
begin second guessing things you would have never second guessed before. The
crazy intensifies and is now coming by way of selfish acts, frequent mood
changes, isolation of themselves from you, and bouts of silence. When you try
to find out what’s wrong with them they will find a way to blame you or
somebody else for their actions. Crazy does not improve so once you figure out
a person is crazy you must not try to fix them or be extra nice thinking they
will return the favor because this is not going to happen. Your best bet is to
research their behavior and most likely you will find through research that
they indeed have either a personality disorder, a mental disorder or both. When
people display acts of crazy don’t waste your time trying to deal with it. Many
people especially married people will stick with the crazy person because they
took a vow and they want to abide by it which will only work if you’re ok with
being miserable and married. The definition of crazy reads “mentally deranged
especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.” Once someone displays these
traits don’t stick around for it to get worst get out and stay out. The best life for a sane person is to attach themselves to like minded people. Leave the crazies to their craziness and enjoy your life.</span></div>
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the devil will flee. Always let people know about your relationship with God.
If it's an intimate relationship that means God is guiding you and showing you
what you need to see about people so let them know that he is present in your
life and you do indeed hear the</span><br />
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information will alter the way they INTENDED to handle you. If they had a toxic
agenda, they will flee why? Because when they know God has your ear they won't
get too far with a toxic agenda. This behavior will allow you to welcome the
right relationships into your space. If you’re not at this place yet on your journey,
I encourage you to seek this relationship with God before you seek one with
another human being. It's important that you strive for an intimate
relationship with God because this is when you can hear him speak into your
spirit very clearly and it's no doubt that God is guiding you. You can count on
him to guide you in the right direction and if you are reading his word enough
and praying enough this allows him to trust you and know that you will be
obedient to what he tells you to do. This relationship is not conquered overnight.
Everyone is different so you will reach it at the level your supposed to. As
long as you’re seeking it you will eventually obtain it. God will hear your
prayers and the relationship will begin to form. Once its formed the way you
view life will change. You will handle your relationships differently because
God will be guiding you instead of you guiding you. when we do things our way
many times it doesn't work out your relationship with God will show you
everything that you need to know because you are connected with him he will
live through you which will enable you to discern healthy relationships vs
unhealthy toxic relationships. If you are single and wanting to make some
changes and do things differently because doing it your way is not working right
now is a good time for you to work on your relationship with God and watch and
see how your earthly relationships begin to change. If your currently in a relationship
and you haven’t developed this relationship with God you can still do so by
dedicating some time to prayer and talking to God this too will improve your
current relationships. We are so busy trying to put together fleshly relationships and becoming
frustrated when they don’t work out when what we should be busy doing is developing
an intimate relationship with God and allowing him to guide us so that we can
enter into good relationships with people that have our best interest at heart.
Try it I promise you won’t be disappointed.</span><br />
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The condition of your heart will determine how your life turns out. Without your heart your body could not survive life.Oftentimes we just look at the heart as a organ inside of our body that pumps out blood. What we fail to do is to study the conditions of our hearts as well as the hearts of others. A careful look at the condition of a persons heart can save you a lot of time because if their heart condition is bad the way they treat you will be bad. Below are my picks of different heart conditions. If you see yourself in any of these or if you see people you have a close connection within these descriptions take time to own the information and do what's needed to continue being big hearted or make some changes and get rid of your bad heart doing this will change the quality of your relationships.</div>
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BIG HEART- Big hearted people are generous ,selfless and kind they love to help others and they love to make people feel good they will give their last to anyone in need. It is proven that having a big heart is a good way to be especially because its the way God designed us all to be.While being a good trait having a big heart can sometimes bring on big pain.When your heart is open and big it's susceptible to pain. When someone doesn't appreciate your heart or is incapable of being a good person themselves, they will oftentimes take advantage of the big hearted person leaving them with a void. To possess a big heart is to possess a caring heart when you genuinely care about other people and their feelings you rarely do anything that would be hurtful to them this is a huge attribute for the big hearted person, Having a big heart is a wonderful place to be on your journey it's also a difficult place to be especially if you haven't properly studied the conditions of peoples hearts. Big hearted people oftentimes connect themselves to selfish hearted people and the connection never prove fruitful to the big hearted individual this is why having discernment is essential to aid in weeding out the cold, selfish, broken hearted people. Once this concept is learned the big hearted person will begin to surround themselves with people that will appreciate their heart and not take advantage of it. Big hearted people are rare in the world today so if you run across one don't take advantage of them be appreciative of them in your life and treat them just as good as they treat you.</div>
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HARD HEART- The hard hearted person is the one that's been hurt one too many times be it at the hands of a parent a family member or friend somebody hurt them and whenever they tried to have an open heart somebody broke it. Having your heart hurt multiple times can eventually turn it hard. This is a time when you must also pray for discernment and learn who exactly you can give your heart to. hard hearted people normally hurt other people because they don't have any feelings they shut their heart down build a wall around it and no feelings come in or go out if you find yourself in some way connected to a hard hearted person you will never get the respect or the attention that you deserve because a hard heart doesn't feel. If you find yourself or notice other people behaving in a manner that is nonchalant and non caring it may be because their heart or your heart is hard once you develop a hard heart first recognize it as being a flaw and then you must work on it daily to soften. A hard heart can be softened with the right prayer and diligent work to be a better person if you find that a person that you're dealing with has a hard heart and they're perfectly okay with it do yourself a favor and disconnect from that person you'll never get what you need from them. Some signs of a hard heart is<br />
1. Non communicative<br />
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COLD HEART- The cold hearted person can be similar to the hard hearted person the only difference is when a person's heart turns cold it becomes numb. Cold hearted people lack genuine affection . They may show affection towards you sometimes but its only when there's a need. When they want something from you they fake acts of affection to get what they want. This behavior is almost always temporary. After the need is met they go back to non feeling and when people have no feelings they are unsympathetic unfriendly, insensitive and unloving. The cold hearted person has also been damaged and their past hurts or current hurts has caused their heart to turn cold. The danger of dealing with a cold hearted person is you will hardly never get anything positive from them. Cold hearted people lack joy in their heart because their heart is cold. Oftentimes people's hearts with turn cold when they go through a traumatic life situation or some type of tragedy that causes them to not want to feel anymore they feel like if they don't feel anything then nothing bad can come upon them. What they fail to to realize in that statement nothing bad will come upon them but nothing good will come upon them either. A cold heart breeds negativity and in order to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being you have to be able to have compassion and feelings of love for them and cold hearted people don't have feelings. It's not typical for a cold hearted person to admit that their heart is cold their behavior usually shows the coldness in their heart however if you yourself feel that your heart is cold then you should do a self reflection to find out what caused your heart to turn cold and once you realize what made you that way you can work towards releasing it and letting it go. This process of ownership and change will allow your heart to warm back up and your new warm heart will show you that there are people who's intentions are not to break your heart or hurt you you just have to surround yourself with the right people. If you are in relationship with a cold hearted person know that you should consider the health of your own heart because if a warm big hearted person stays around a cold heated person for an extended amount of time the warm hearted person will most likely pick up bad habits from the cold hearted person. Cold hearted people are the ones we learn to love from a distance and not get too close because cold hearted people give no reciprocity to big hearted people. Here are some signs of a cold hearted person<br />
1. No compassion<br />
2. Non empathetic<br />
3.unemotional<br />
4.moody<br />
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BROKEN HEARTED- Broken hearted people become broken hearted because they have become or allowed themselves to become overwhelmed by grief or disappointment. Most often its a case of someone they loved disappointing them or letting them down and their heart is broken by it. Many times broken hearted people become despondent , mournful, sad and miserable. They carry these traits because they won't allow the broken pieces of their heart two mend back together most broken hearted people have been affected by another broken hearted person. If not dealt with its a vicious cycle of the saying hurt people hurt people. The cycle carries on with the broken hearted going around breaking other people's hearts because they have not yet realized that their heart too has been broken and has not been mended back together. you can determine if a person is broken hearted by the way they speak to and about you. Broken hearted people normally aim to break hearts because they have failed to take the proper time to heal their own heart. You can spot a brokenhearted person because their mood it's often time sad ,despondent and negative. You may find yourself looking at these behaiviors as them just having a few bad days or going through a hard time but you will soon notice the mood doesn't change. A heart broken person will not get better until they learn how to mend the pieces of their broken heart and the only way to do thisis the first own it as being a issue in your life and next dealing with the source that broke your heart and forgive it and let it go. This does not mean you must confront the person or situation that broke your heart it means you accept it for what it is and move past it don't allow the one that hurt you continue to rent space in your world once you release them this is the moment when your broken heart will mend back together.</div>
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When your heart condition is not in a good state you must shut off the valve and deal with what's going on. <br />
In the physical sense when your heart gets clogged you have a heart attack<br />
In the spiritual sense if your heart is clogged you lack the ability to show behaviors that are required to be a good person. The only way to cure a bad heart condition is to make positive changes and learn to let go of that which caused your heart to go bad. Embrace that truth and your heart condition will improve.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-55530428050348934222015-12-01T15:19:00.000-08:002016-02-02T19:48:01.382-08:00 ARE YOU EMASCULATING YOUR MAN?<br />
<span style="font-size: x-large;">EMASCULATE </span><span style="font-size: small;">:to make (a man) feel less masculine : to deprive (a man) of his male strength, role, etc.<br /> : to make (something) weaker or less effective</span><br />
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Often times depending on their personality type many women will choose a man that they eventually will end up emasculating. When a woman emasculates a man she strips him of his God appointed manhood. The mans role in the relationship is to lead, protect, and provide for his family and the woman's role is to be his help mate. For many different reason women don't know this or they do know it and they choose to ignore it because they want to do it their way. One reason woman don't follow their correct role in a relationship is lack of knowledge and refusal to be by herself. The woman that can't function without a man will oftentimes settle just to say she has a man. This mindset will lead to you choosing someone that wasn't on your level from day one. Oftentimes its not taught to us that we should be equally yoked with our mates and then with this lack of knowledge we fail to take the time to study our roles in a relationship and for that we do things backwards and out of order. This happens because you don't know any better. When a woman is raised to be independent she is taught to make things happen whether a man does it or not. With this type of upbringing you tend to become self sufficient and aggressive and you adopt the "nurturing" spirit . nurturing women are usually kind hearted and very giving and although these are good character traits to possess you must be careful because this type of behavior attracts needy weak minded, selfish men. This is the man that's grown on his birth certificate but in reality he is a little boy trapped inside a grown mans body. This person is a easy target for emasculation simply because he has no desire to be responsible he wants to live care free and not have any real grown up responsibly he has no desire to lead protect or provide all he wants is for someone to take care of him so emasculating him is almost effortless and can sometimes be done without you realizing your doing it. Emasculated men don't have a say. Whoever is doing the most gets the most say in the relationship. A woman that takes on the role of the leader makes the decisions while her man follows. This is cute in the beginning but before its all over it will become a problem. When the woman realizes she's acting outside of her role she grows tired of being in control of things her man should be handling. This is pivotal moment in a women's life when she wakes up one day and realize she's growing and he's not and what's really bad is its all her fault. How? By needing to be in control and emasculating him years earlier her focus was on being in control and she never took time to realizes she picked a man that wasn't capable nor did he have a desire to be the leader of the household. In this situation its not likely that he's going change. Once you have emasculated a man for a certain amount of time its almost impossible to reverse the effects. In his mind he's saying "Why should he start being a man now?" Why should he take responsibility now? Why should he pay for something now?". So now the woman is tired of doing his job and hers and she wants change. I regret to inform you change is not going to happen WHY? because his lack of maturity wont allow it. <br />
First of all you must embrace the fact that a REAL grown man cannot be emasculated why? Because mature minded men already know their role in a relationship so a woman will never have the opportunity to control him. Grown men take care of their families and have their own voice so understand if your man didn't show these grown man qualities in the beginning he's not going to start in the middle of the relationship .At this stage one of two things will happen you will either continue to deal with it and be miserable or you will set standards and be strong enough to walk away if he can't comply. And when you walk away know that its NEVER a woman's role to be the head of her household when there's a man there with her. Learn from it and grow from it. <br />
If any of this resembled your situation take a moment to own it and work towards making positive changes. Self reflection is the best reflection.<br />
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<span style="line-height: normal;">In life you will encounter people that think they know everything. In their minds everything they do is right and if they happen to do something wrong its never really their fault. These type of people refuse to own their flaws which in turn puts them in the category of being a fool. Why? Because there is no perfect person walking the face of the earth and to think that you do no wrong is both simple minded and foolish. We all have flaws and we all can stand to be corrected in some areas of our lives and its foolish to think your beyond correction. Those who claim to be the smartest oftentimes are smart where book knowledge is concerned but most often lack common sense . These are the ones who place themselves on a pedestal that there lack of common sense does not allow them to firmly stand on. When you place yourself in a pedestal you must be careful because you put yourself in the position where your unable to accept any type of constructive criticism. This type of behavior will eventually backfire on you and cause you to not only look simple but it will also stunt your growth. You can't grow if you think you have no faults. Sometimes God will place people in your life to give you the constructive criticism that no one else had the courage to give you and if you waste that opportunity to learn by becoming defensive and offended you will have missed a opportunity to learn something that could potentially help you along on your journey. Don't hate the messenger take that energy to do a self reflection look in the mirror and use what you've learned to move you from foolish to favored.</span></div>
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-55631601548571420472015-11-13T09:30:00.000-08:002015-11-13T09:30:26.438-08:00Emotional rollercoaster of regret(Part 2)Emotional rollercoaster of regret<br />
roll·er coast·er <br />
Noun<br />
An amusement park attraction that consists of a light railroad track with many tight turns and steep slopes, on which people ride in...<br />
Verb<br />
Move, change, or occur in the dramatically changeable manner of a roller coaster.<br />
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The emotional rollercoaster of regret is a completely different feeling, on this ride in the beginning when it begins to creep slowly upward the feeling is fear and terror your scared your heart is beating fast and very soon you know you made a big mistake by getting on this ride. What was I thinking about. You know you don't like rollercoasters but the excitement you saw from everyone else's faces made you think this was the right choice. Maybe it would make you happy and excited. Never once thinking you hate the feeling of your stomach dropping and your heart beating fast with fear. The things that run through your mind is " I have to get off", " why did I do this" .At this point none of that matters because the ride has started and your already approaching the top. As you get to the top you begin to feel ill as if you may lose the chili dog you just finished eating. You are totally disgusted with yourself for even getting on this ride. You had been here before and you didn't like it the last time. You ask yourself why would I do this to myself again? These are some of the same questions you ask yourself when you enter into a relationship with the wrong person once again.<br />
As you begin struggling to find a answer it happens. The ride drops it takes a plunge downward going 100 miles per hour. You knew it was coming but still wasn't prepared for the feeling it gave you as you felt your stomach drop down to your ankles and pure fear takes over your heart. This is not a good feeling ,you never want to feel like this again. As the ride continues to flip you up and down and all around for what seems like forever ,your feeling like your heart is going to jump out of your chest. At this time you begin praying and asking God if he gets you off this ride alive you will never do this again. Your eyes are glued shut and you just want it stop. Suddenly without any notice it stops. As you unbuckle your seat belt you promise yourself your never getting on this rollercoaster again. The fear was so intense and that feeling of being sick to your stomach was too much for you to ever bear again so from that day on you never get back on that rollercoaster again. This is the rollercoaster that you wouldn't stand in line for any amount of time to get back on in fact you will never even look at it again. This was it you realize this particular ride did not make you happy in fact it almost scared the death out of you . In a relationship that's not worthy of your time, this type of emotional rollercoaster is never good for you. No matter how many times you go through it the feeling will always be sickening. You will never feel happy once it's over. In fact the feeling is quite the opposite . You feel regret, anxiety, and fear. Your all shook up and your mad at yourself for putting your heart through that turmoil. this was bad choice and you won't make that mistake again.<br />
Life is like a rollercoaster it will start of slow and quickly starts to move at a rapid pace. Sometimes within a split second it will have you upside down. When riding this rollercoaster of life you have to stop and decide who do you love more you or them? If the answer is you ,you simply refuse to accept anymore of the pain. This is when you pick your belongings up and step off this ride and never get back on again. If you've been on the ride for a long period of time it will take a lot of praying and even more soul searching to realize your worth and to decide that you deserve better but once the light bulb clicks inside your soul you can exit without every looking back.<br />
It's really just that simple.<br />
Know your worth<br />
Value yourself<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-56634111664415710402015-09-18T07:01:00.000-07:002016-02-02T19:41:21.467-08:00The danger of investing in people<span style="color: rgba(0,0,0,0.701961); font-family: "uictfonttextstylebody"; font-size: 17px;">An investment is something people make in a effort and the hopes that something tangible will come as a result of it. When someone invests in the stock market they carefully watch it and pay close attention to their stocks because they are hoping for it to double and triple and make them lots of money. People that invest in a business will put their money into growing the business so that at a later date the business will flourish and the money will continue to grow. These forms of investment will sometimes bring forth revenue and sometimes lose revenue but the return on it if done correctly will be a good one. Investing in relationships carry the same connotation but affects your emotions in a different way. We must be careful when we invest in people. Unlike the stock market or a business people tend to pull more at our heart strings. A good parent invests in their children by spending time with them and raising them so they can be great adults this is a good investment and will have a great return if done properly. When we invest in romantic relationships and friendships we must be certain not to invest too much of anything especially in the beginning. Oftentimes the beginning of a relationship is exciting its fun your learning about a new person and you want to tell them everything about you and what you do. The problem with that is if you divulge this information too quickly you haven't made a clear assessment of whether or not they deserve to know all about you. Investing too much of anything too quickly in a relationship can be a catalyst for disaster. Be it time, money, sex or just conversation the return on investing in something that's not worthy will not bring in good results. Women often make their mistake in relationships by investing too much time money and sex into men that never even deserved a second phone call. Women think that letting a man know that she's financially stable and can take care of herself and him will keep him around. This tactic only works on a weak man. This investment is normally short lived because once the novelty wears off even the weak man will walk away. When deciding to invest in a person the stakes are high. Once you've invested so much you begin to blind yourself to some of the things they are doing that you know are wrong and once you've invested so much you won't even care if what they are doing is wrong you stay because you've invested so much and you don't want to start over again. Investing into selfish self centered people will only bring you disappointment and little to no reciprocity. Selfish people only have one person on their mind and that's themselves anybody else is just a pawn on their game of chess and will be discarded if you stop giving and doing things for them. Before deciding to invest in a person make sure you have seen the selfless side of them on more than a few occasions. The moment you sense selfishness know that this investment will have no good return.</span><br />
<span style="color: rgba(0,0,0,0.701961); font-family: "uictfonttextstylebody"; font-size: 17px;">Investing time should be the main objective in the beginning of any relationship if your secure in yourself and you know your worth time is all that's needed. What you have in your bank account and what your financial capabilities are should not be the initial form of investment. Removing that will allow you to see the person for who they really are and to see if they will accept you without those extra additives. Time is the key and time will tell you everything you need if the time you invested deems to be wasted that's OK at least you learned something from it and can apply what you learned to the next relationship. There's a big difference in investing time and investing money and sex. Money and sex breed temptation. Acting on it will place blinders on your ability to discern the person true intent.Your focus is now on the good feeling your flesh is feeling and taking your focus off what the spirit has to reveal to you about this person. When choosing to invest in a person make sure its a solid investment that will deem a good return because anything less than that will leave you your bank account and your heart empty.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #000070;"><br /></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-46127120885320689502015-08-03T11:06:00.000-07:002015-08-03T11:25:23.493-07:00The art of overcoming Bitterness<div dir="ltr" style="-webkit-composition-fill-color: rgba(130, 98, 83, 0.0980392); color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.701961); font-family: UICTFontTextStyleBody; font-size: 17px;">
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Bitterness is a feeling that derives from pain and hurt. There are many different reasons a person can become bitter. A bad breakup,unhappy living situations or living in a dysfunctional family environment are a few situations that can cause a person to become bitter. Regardless of the situation if not careful the spirit of bitterness can creep into the midst of your soul and create havoc in your life. Once bitterness has attached itself to your soul it will take a lot self reflection, forgiveness and prayer to remove it. Becoming bitter is not something we choose.When someone feels hurt or betrayed its a human instinct to become angry. Anger leads to ill feelings and ill feelings can bring on bitterness. Bitterness must be addressed and handled quickly because if left to fester you will become a person that will forever be stuck and no growth will take place. When someone hurts us we must always be aware that their actions have absolutely nothing to do with us and everything to do with the person that's inflicting the pain. This is the very reason why we should never allow the spirit of bitterness to enter our soul and if we should have a weak moment and it creeps in we should always rebuke it immediately by praying and asking God to remove it. If not addresses in a timely fashion the bitterness will cause you to do things out of your character in a effort to hurt the one who hurt you. As the very popular cliche goes " hurt people hurt people" this reigns true in so many situations. Never exchange hurt for hurt because that in turn places you on the same level as the person who caused your pain. Instead choose to practice forgiveness and pray that your heart be healed of all hurt. When you practice this the spirit of bitterness never has a chance to enter.<br />Ephesians 4:31-32 encourages us to leave all bitterness behind and don't mistreat or talk bad about people but to show love and compassion instead. At all times you should practice to be better not bitter. Being better allows you to more forward in joy and happiness and being bitter does quite the opposite. Bitterness breeds hate and having hate in your heart stifles you from growing. We should be all be on the path to growth and to remain on this path means saying no to bitterness and yes to being the best version of yourself so the world will always see your smile.</span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-59801952212292725982015-07-20T09:51:00.003-07:002016-02-02T19:50:45.664-08:00Ms. Desperate VS Ms Confident how to overcome Desperate Woman's Syndrome<span style="color: rgba(0,0,0,0.701961); font-family: "uictfonttextstylebody"; font-size: 17px;">When she reaches the level of maturity where she realizes that suffering from desperate woman syndrome will never get her Mr right she will have more time available to search her own soul and learn how to love herself enough to find out that it's her spirit and her personality that will attract Mr right not her bank account....</span><br />
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Desperation is a trait men see in a woman almost instantly. Before the first encounter is over he will be able to measure a women's level of self esteem if he senses her self esteem is low the dynamic in which he treats her moving forward will be detrimental to her soul. Oftentimes when a woman's self esteem is low she tends use material things such as money and sex to hold on to a man. Most women by nature are givers so once a man realizes a women has low self esteem his plan is to get whatever he can get from her with no intention on truly loving her or providing any form of reciprocity. This is the reason why It's important for a woman to not only verbalized that she loves herself but she must prove it through her actions. Confident women know that they are queens and queens don't need to buy men they just exercise self control and they take time to get to know themselves so that when the man she prayed for comes along she's sure he was sent by God and not by the Enemy to just merely distract her from Mr right. </div>
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When you suffer from desperate woman syndrome you don't take time to look at the red flags and heed to them because your so sure your way works. You want to be in a relationship so bad you miss all the signs that God sent to tell you he was wrong and you continue to follow the enemies plan that was set in place to distract you. Once you submit to the distraction you'll show your insecurities by chasing him, buying him ,and giving him all the information he needs to set up his plan to take from you until there's nothing left to take and once he's depleted you he will walk away and find another victim to manipulate. All women must come to the point when they realize they are powerful just by waking up everyday. Your worth lies in how you feel about yourself and once you know that you are worthy of the best you will no longer settle for less nor will you feel the need to have to buy people in order for them to stay with you. Remember your vulnerabilities are most noticed when your acting out of desperation. Users will always take your vulnerabilities and use them to manipulate you and use them for their own personal gain. Make a decision today that you will not live a life of desperation instead you will practice learning the art of self control, patience and confidence for this is where you will begin to live like a queen is supposed to live and that's the moment when you attract men that are equipped to treat you the way you deserve to be treated this is confidence this is queen status......</div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">When a man approaches a confident woman with high self esteem he will know immediately that the games he has played with ms desperate will not prove profitable with her. At that moment the man will either accept the challenge of dealing with a real grown woman because he's a real grown man or he will back down back and head back over to the thirsty desperate chicks. When he backs down its proof that he wasn't on your level to begin with and your ok with his dismissal and little to none of your time has been wasted. Confidence is a attribute that every woman should strive for because its at this stage of your journey that you realize you are worthy of nothing but the best and you have the self control and the patience to wait for the one that will give you everything your heart desires this is when life gets good......</span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18137130833411254595noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6063447635213592180.post-26155499590736280172015-06-29T10:38:00.000-07:002016-02-02T20:23:02.395-08:00The dangers of looking back<span style="color: rgba(0,0,0,0.701961); font-family: "uictfonttextstylebody"; font-size: 17px;">On all vehicles you find that there are three mirrors that play major parts in the safety of your driving. The three mirrors that enable you to see what's behind you are the two rear mirrors located on the drivers and passengers side and then there's the rear view mirror that's located in the middle directly behind the windsheild. The three of these mirrors while very important in your driving journey are very small in size compared to the windshield which is very large and aids in your ability to see what's going on in front of you. When driving you sometimes have to glance into one of the three rear mirrors to see if it's safe to switch lanes however if you keep your focus on that rear view mirror too long you will lose focus of whats happening in front of you and you could possible crash because you spent to much time looking in the rear mirror behind you. </span><br />
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When comparing this scenario to your life circumstances we oftentimes stay too focused on our past and the people and situations behind us. When you are growing sometimes you have to leave some people and places behind you. Your main focus should be what's in front of you. Although very intimidating the future and what lies ahead always serves as exciting adventure. While uncertainty will play a part it's always better to look forward to what lies ahead especially if the past was not a exciting place to be. Our past will always serve as a comfort zone. The people and things in our past serves as familiar territory and we can sometimes become comfortable staying there because the thought of venturing out to something new is frightening and scary. If you look back too long and become too focused on the past you will tend to make it a part of your future. This should never happen because you will eventually end up crashing in life as you would if you were driving a car because you focused more on what was behind you instead of looking at the big clear future that's in front of you. Focusing on what's ahead of you helps you to get to where your going at a fast pace . Constantly looking behind you slows your progress down and it takes you longer to get where your going. When thinking about looking back remember the scenario of the car mirrors and remind yourself there's nothing good going on behind you and too much focus on that will cause a major crash in you getting closer to your destiny which it clearly in front of you. Philippians 3:13 encourages us to forget those things which are behind and look forward to those things that are in front of us for what's lies ahead is much more inviting that what lies behind. Looking back places you in dangerous territory and it robs you of all the wonderful things that lie ahead. Do yourself a favor and never look back you will thank yourself later.<br />
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