Levels of Esteem

                                            

Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person's overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.

Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself and how you feel about yourself sets the tone of how you conduct yourself in all of your relationships. There are three important levels of self-esteem. There is NO self-esteem, LOW self-esteem and then there’s where we all should strive to have HIGH self-esteem.

A person with no self-esteem deems themselves worthless to others unless they are doing something extreme to keep others attention fixated on them. No self-esteem means you don’t value yourself as a good person unless you’re satisfying someone else. You may be dealing with issues concerning your looks or your weight or maybe you were abused in some kind of way be it physical or verbally and that abuse made you feel unworthy. People that suffer from no self-esteem always have to go to the extreme in everything they do. If they are well off financially they go overboard with buying things. They flaunt their money to get attention and recognition and to make people like them. In a romantic relationship a man that’s an opportunist will cling to the woman with no self-esteem because he will always benefit from having her around. She will be so busy “BUYING HIM” or sexing him she won’t even realizing he’s using her for his own personal gain.

The next level of esteem is LOW self-esteem. This is not as bad as having no esteem. People with low esteem won’t go to the high extremes as no self- esteem however they still don’t hold themselves to a high regard. Low self-esteem makes you settle for much less than you deserve. People with low self-esteem fail to defend themselves in situations because they don’t think they deserve the very best. In relationships this can be problem because manipulative people can pick up very easily on those that have low and no self-esteem. They feed off this and take advantage of such people. Having low esteem is projecting to the world that you’re just gliding through life with no self-worth and that they can treat you any kind of way because you don’t recognize your own worth. The way you feel about yourself projects to others how they can treat you. If you talk bad about yourself why would anybody else talk good about you? You will never live to your full potential or get what your heart desires having no or low self-esteem. If any of this applies to you embrace that you’re in this situation and pay close attention to the next section for it will help you raise your esteem from no to high.

High self-esteem shows that you think of yourself in a high regard. You have pride in yourself and you believe you deserve nothing but the best. Living with high self-esteem allows you to weed out the people in your life that don’t have your best interest at heart. When you rise from low self-esteem to high self-esteem your level of tolerance will change significantly because you will go from being a people pleaser to YOU pleaser. You will only stay in situations where you’re being treated fairly. You will not accept any form of abuse because you love yourself enough to know that you deserve better. You’re confident in knowing you don’t give people things to make them like you. People will automatically like you because you like yourself. The journey of esteem is no easy one it’s so easy to overlook it and pretend that you love yourself but your actions will always show how you really feel about yourself. Getting in tune with yourself and owning up to your own flaws can be difficult. Once you begin to view yourself as a queen with high self-esteem and see how you begin to attract people that view you the same.