" Ultimatum" the mistake women love to make

An ultimatum (Latin: the last one) is a demand whose fulfillment is requested in a specified period of time and which is backed up by a threat to be followed through in case of noncompliance. An ultimatum is generally the final demand in a series of requests. As such, the time allotted is usually short, and the request is understood not to be open to further negotiation. The threat which backs up the ultimatum can vary depending on the demand in question and on the other circumstances. 

Never be in such a hurry to get married that you find yourself giving out a ultimatum such as " if you don't marry me  or propose to me by _______ I'm leaving".  The fact that you even feel like you need to say this is a clear indication that the man you so desire to be your husband does not have the same desire for you to be his wife. When a man truly loves you and is ready for the very serious commitment of marriage you won't have to say a word. The fact that you have to bring it up is a red flag that he either is not ready for marriage or he doesn't want to marry you whatever the case may be giving him a ultimatum will not end well.

When he's not really ready but too selfish to let you go you might get a ring but its only to shut you up so you can continue to satisfy his needs. Your persistence may get you down the aisle and it may take months or even years but one day you will realize giving the ultimatum was not in your best interest.

Men are hunters by nature they know exactly what they want. When marriage is what they want and they love you to the point that it's scares them to lose you they take the necessary steps to ensure that you don't go anywhere and again you don't have to say a word. Marriage is a covenant that shouldn't be forced. If one person in the relationship is not whole heartedly ready to get married at some point in the union they will check out. Again this could  take months or maybe even years . Depending on the depth of what your doing to keep them around ( sex, money,gifts) they will stick around but not because of love but for sheer convenience. Where real unconditional  love exists between a man and a woman  you don't have to bring anything to the table but yourself. The love will grow and a bond is formed and this type of bond is  never put together by forced interaction. So the question you should always ask yourself before giving a ultimatum is  "do I  really want to  be married to someone who I had to threaten into marriage"?

 The moral of the story is value yourself enough to know that you should never have to threaten or force  a man into marrying you the man that is truly meant for you will recognize you as his Queen and take the necessary steps to make you his wife.