How can she submit if he's not leading?

As I'm preparing myself for the next chapter of my  journey I often talk to God about my relationship status and he always answers back if you want a good godly man you must first be a good godly woman. Since I developed this intimate relationship with God  I've  been practicing the art of  hearing  from God so when he speaks to me in that manner I've accustomed myself to listening because so often we can be so intertwined in other peoples business we (I) failed to focus on me and what I  needed to change. During one of my self reflective moments I was lead to read the scriptures on being "submissive" because submission in my opinion  is one of the top five  killers of marriages and relationships. When you begin an attempt to follow God it doesn't mean your not going to sin and your not going to make mistakes it simply means that your making a effort to do things Gods way because your way was not working in your favor. When I googled scriptures on being submissive I was shocked at how much of the bible covered summision there are plenty but the first one that caught my eye was:

1Timothy 2:11-14 
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived (by the serpent).and became a transgressor.(sinner).

I had to read this one several times before I could dissect it and decipher where it came to play in my life and this is what I came up with:
Now had Adam been a LEADER in that situation instead of being a FOLLOWER everything would have ran smoothly. But he failed to lead which meant Eve had nothing to submit to so she took things into her own  hands which is what most women do when they choose a man that doesn't have the proper  knowledge of how to or what is required of him to be classified as a leader. This is precisely why I desire a Boaz not a Adam. Adam was passive and  weak Boaz was a strong leader. Adams lack of leadership skills are the reason why  the woman are  making all the descions (Eve) and the passive man(Adam) just following and agreeing to everything  she says even if half the time its a bad choice. As a  leader (Boaz)he would know how to interject and show her a different perspective and together they would make good choices. And her ( Ruth) and  her husband(Boaz ) could live happily ever after.(Ruth 4:13).
See I'm learning that in order to  be submissive you must be connected to a leader otherwise submission wont play apart in your relationship and this is where women all over the world go wrong. When choosing to live the right way you must follow ALL the rules. So ladies  pay close attention to his actions and if he's not a leader lead your way out and be patient and wait for the man than can lead, protect and provide for you the way that God planned it.