did you pick them or Did God send them ?

When a woman reaches a place in  life where she is tired of making wrong choices in men and doing it her way and she desires a real meaningful relationship she will seek God for help. She will get to the place where she begins to pray and ask God to send her a man. The tricky part in praying and asking God to send you people you must first have a relationship with God meaning you talk to him daily not just when you want something and when you talk to him you have the capacity to hear the small still voice speaking back to you.  Once you reach this level you then must  also realize just as God hears you so does the devil.When we pray and ask God for a mate we automatically assume he is the only one who hears us so as soon as we are approached by a man who we are  physically attracted to we automatically think its from God this is not always the case.When we think God has answered our prayer we tend to let our guard down. We may say to ourselves " I prayed for a man here he is so God must have sent him and he must be the one for me".This may seem true in the very beginning so we choose this person and pursue a relationship with them. As your getting to know them if your truly connected to God in a intimate way and this  person is mr wrong God will send the red flags that's proof he didn't construct this union but if your not in tune with listening to him and your more focused on what your flesh is saying  you will ignore the red flags. Red flags are sent to warn you that something is not quite right with a person. They are the signs that show you that your not equally yolked. Sometimes we will see that we're not equally yolked but we will stay thinking we can change the person or the person will eventully change. This is  not the person that was sent by God. When God sends our mate there will be no change required he will make sure that they are equipped with everything needed to be the ideal mate designed just for you. Choosing to stay with a person that God didn't send you will lead you down a road of frustration and misery. Once you get fed up with choosing the wrong people and start relying on God to place people in your life this is when you'll start to entertain the right people and the wrong people will fall away. This is when life gets exciting. Now is good time to evaluate your relationships and ask yourself did I pick them or did God send them. Once you get the answer be gentle with yourself and take the necessary steps to make things right.

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