The dangers of dealing with emotionally unavailable people

Many people are physically available but not as many are emotionally available and when you desire both but chose to settle for one the relationship will not be sturdy because the foundation on which it was built was shaky from the beginning. God says he will give us the desires of our heart but after we ask him we must be diligent and patient in waiting for HIM to deliver because if impatience sets in and you get tired of waiting for HIM you will choose somebody on your own and if you choose a emotionally unavailable person you will never get the desires of your heart fulfilled. You'll get something but its not going to be what you desired. Its easy to be physically available all you have to do is simply just show up. Your body is there and  its doing the physical thing that you desire. The emotional piece is different to be emotionally available you must be free of all emotional attachments to the lovers and mates  from your past. How can you tell if someone is emotionally unavailable? When they speak often of  a person in their past as if they are not over the relationship. When they are still dealing with and entertaining  drama concerning a past relationship and they can't seem to get past it this normally is a red flag that they are still emotionally tied to this person. When dealing with a emotionally unavailable person you must understand  that because they are still partially tied to a completely different person they can't be fully tied to you. Emotional attachment means their heart still belongs to another person and two people cant have one persons heart. You know their heart doesn't belong to you when they still feel the need to protect the other person and no matter what this person does they continue to entertain them this doesn't  make you a bad person it just makes you not yet fully available to a person that's whole and emotionally available. When you realize your not emotionally available you should take some time to self reflect and focus on getting past the hurt that keeps you emotionally tied to another person and work on releasing it so that you can one day show up in a relationship being a whole person and not just the physical half.