The Bandaid theory

A band aid is used to cover up a painful wound. It's  made up of an adhesive that sticks to a certain part of the body and serves as a component to keep the wound from becoming infected. As the band aid stays on for a period of time its begins to get old and if left on too long it sticks to the skin which makes it very painful when you pull it off.The bandaid serves as a temporary relief to the painful wound but eventually it must come off to give the wound air and allow it to heal properly. This same theory can be applied to those  who enter into new relationships before allowing themselves to heal properly from a previous relationship. When coming out of a long term relationship it is very important that you take-essential time out to properly heal before entering into a new relationship. If you fail to do this the person that you enter into the new relationship with  who is referred to as the REBOUND will serve as your  human band aid. This person enters your life as a cover up. just as the band aid does a sore  they are covering up the pain from the lost relationship. they stick to the hurting heart(the wound) and appear to be healing you when in fact its just  a temporary agent to cover up the pain.  As with the band aid this person will stick for as long as they can and eventually will have to  be removed .Once they are removed you are still stuck with the same wounds. these wounds will not heal until the proper time has been allotted for the healing process to run its course. you can never use a person to get over a person the only way to properly heal from a broken relationship is to take time out to do a self reflection and focus on yourself and the things that went wrong in the broken relationship. Once you take that time out to do a personal and possible spiritual inventory of what went wrong in the broken relationship you then find yourself and can begin the healing process. Totally healing from a broken relationship allows you to first accept your faults and decide what it is that you really desire and need in a relationship. This self reflection time will ensure that when you are ready to enter into a new relationship that you have fully  accepted your part in the demise of the previous relationship and that you will not  make the same mistakes again. many people make the mistake of convincing themselves that  they cannot be alone this false notion will keep these individuals in a constant state of fear and bondage. As humans no one wants to be alone however if you cannot accept being alone then you will never be successful in any relationships. being with yourself for  a period of time allows you to get in tuned with you which in turn gives you the opportunity to leave behind the hurts from the past and move forward with loving yourself so that you will be mentally and spiritually able to properly love someone else.