Monday, December 30, 2013

The art of expectation



ex·pec·ta·tion
/ˌekspekˈtāSHən/
Noun
A strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.
A belief that someone will or should achieve something.
Synonyms
expectancy - expectance - hope - anticipation - prospect

 Often times when a person allows another Individual to occupy their personal space they sometimes unintentionally place expectations on the relationship. When we are children we EXPECT our parents to raise us and take care of us until we are adults. When we enter into friendships with people we EXPECT them to be good friends have our best interest at heart and always have our back. When we enter into romantic relationships with people we EXPECT them to love us treat us good and never do anything to hurt us. while each one of these relationship carry a different meaning we still have the same type of expectations and that's for that person or persons to do the right thing by us. What we sometimes fail to realize is some openly aren't capable of doing the things we expect of them. and when we find ourselves in this type of situation disappointment sets in because now this person has not done what was expected of them when in reality they never knew how to from the beginning. As children we don't have as much control over this than we do as adults. As adults we must be careful who we allow into our personal space  and because we know at some point we are going to have expectations of people we must pay close attention to their actions early on so that we don't find ourselves placing unrealistic expectations on them. This will protect your heart from disappointment and let the person off the hook of being forced to be someone that they are not. Just because a person invited themselves into your circle does not mean they belong there and as individuals we must always set boundaries and protect our heart from those who don't belong or deserve to be in our lives. once we realize a person do not have our best interest at heart or are in capable of doing such we have a choice as to whether or not we are going to let them remain in our lives in that capacity. some people have to remain in our lives but not necessarily in our hearts. We must learn how to mentally release the expectation that these people will do right by us and accept them for who they are and handle  them accordingly. Although this maybe very hard to do its a necessary task if you wish to live a happy peaceful life.