Self-esteem
is a term used in psychology to reflect a person's overall emotional evaluation
of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude
toward the self.
Self-esteem
is how you feel about yourself and how you feel about yourself sets the tone of
how you conduct yourself in all of your relationships. There are three
important levels of self-esteem. There is NO self-esteem, LOW self-esteem and
then there’s where we all should strive to have HIGH self-esteem.
A person
with no self-esteem deems themselves worthless to others unless they are doing
something extreme to keep others attention fixated on them. No self-esteem
means you don’t value yourself as a good person unless you’re satisfying
someone else. You may be dealing with issues concerning your looks or your
weight or maybe you were abused in some kind of way be it physical or verbally
and that abuse made you feel unworthy. People that suffer from no self-esteem
always have to go to the extreme in everything they do. If they are well off
financially they go overboard with buying things. They flaunt their money to
get attention and recognition and to make people like them. In a romantic
relationship a man that’s an opportunist will cling to the woman with no self-esteem
because he will always benefit from having her around. She will be so busy
“BUYING HIM” or sexing him she won’t even realizing he’s using her for his own
personal gain.
The next
level of esteem is LOW self-esteem. This is not as bad as having no esteem.
People with low esteem won’t go to the high extremes as no self- esteem however
they still don’t hold themselves to a high regard. Low self-esteem makes you
settle for much less than you deserve. People with low self-esteem fail to
defend themselves in situations because they don’t think they deserve the very best.
In relationships this can be problem because manipulative people can pick up
very easily on those that have low and no self-esteem. They feed off this and
take advantage of such people. Having low esteem is projecting to the world
that you’re just gliding through life with no self-worth and that they can
treat you any kind of way because you don’t recognize your own worth. The way you
feel about yourself projects to others how they can treat you. If you talk bad
about yourself why would anybody else talk good about you? You will never live
to your full potential or get what your heart desires having no or low self-esteem.
If any of this applies to you embrace that you’re in this situation and pay
close attention to the next section for it will help you raise your esteem from
no to high.
High self-esteem
shows that you think of yourself in a high regard. You have pride in yourself
and you believe you deserve nothing but the best. Living with high self-esteem
allows you to weed out the people in your life that don’t have your best
interest at heart. When you rise from low self-esteem to high self-esteem your
level of tolerance will change significantly because you will go from being a
people pleaser to YOU pleaser. You will only stay in situations where you’re
being treated fairly. You will not accept any form of abuse because you love
yourself enough to know that you deserve better. You’re confident in knowing
you don’t give people things to make them like you. People will automatically
like you because you like yourself. The journey of esteem is no easy one it’s
so easy to overlook it and pretend that you love yourself but your actions will always show how you really feel about yourself. Getting in tune with yourself and owning up to
your own flaws can be difficult. Once you begin to view yourself as a queen
with high self-esteem and see how you begin to attract people that view you the
same.
