Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Discernment: The gift that keeps on giving


She realizes she had discernment when people from her past would tell her  how something she had given them advice about turned out to be true. When people would say to her I should have listened to you because you were right. It was then that she realized what she had something very special and she had to be careful  because  if not handled correctly and dealt with in the correct mindset it would lead to the frustration of trying to convince people of something that only God wanted her to know.

 She was learning when her discernment showed her something it wasn't always for her the share. When you try to convince people of things that they are not yet ready to receive you will be viewed as being bitter, judgmental, critical, and mean. although the information your speaking may be true if a person is not in the mindset to receive it they may attack you with hurtful words.  Initially she was offended but later she decided to use it as a teachable moment and figure out why they felt this way about her. She knew deep in her spirit she wasn't any of those things. She definitely wasn't being judgmental because much of the advice she had given out to people was about things that she had experienced herself and it proved not to be fruitful or beneficial to her. She was merely trying to help them out so that they wouldn't have to go through what she went through. She couldn't understand how that was coming across as judgmental until it was revealed to her the information that she was revealing was only supposed to be for her. This was information God had download to her for her own personal healing it wasn't necessarily  meant to share with others. This is where she made her mistake they became offended because she was delivering the message prematurely. The offense set in because they were not at a place spiritually where they were ready to receive what she was saying. She finally came to the realization that everything was not meant to be repeated everything that she knew other people may not have been ready to receive it. Once she started to own that important piece of knowledge she began to monitor what she said to people and how she said it and suddenly she wasn't so amped up to tell people about themselves and what she knew about them. She got quiet and allowed silence and prayer to speak on her behalf.




 The beauty in the gift....



When you're gifted with the spirit of discernment sometimes more often than none God will show you things about people not for you to run and tell everybody but he shows you these things about certain people so you can deal with the person. How others view them or see them is none of your business. God shows you certain characteristics about people that it may take others years to see. This doesn't mean that you must convince the world of their character flaws. it’s information that God has downloaded to your spirit so that you can deal with the person in the manner that you need to. Discernment is not a tool given to place judgement on others it’s a gift from God that if used properly will allow you to live a life free from malice because your gift has showed you everything you need to know. I encourage you to pray for discernment and the wisdom to deal with it properly and I promise you won't be disappointed by the results.

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Fictional speakers / Factual speakers who are you listening to?

In life you will encounter two types of people that you will engage in conversation with. Some will speak factual and some will speak fictional. Fictional speakers often can be classified as delusional.They speak the way they desire their life to be the problem is it hasn't come to fruition yet which means its not true which in turn makes it fictional. Once you realize this character trait in a person it would be to your advantage to not entertain them. Continuing to entertain a fictional speaker will pull you into their delusion of life and in  time you will find yourself behaving in the same manner.
Factual speakers speak only on the facts anything that they say they have proof to back it up. They mainly speak on things that they have gone through in their life or things that others have gone through which means they have knowledge of what they're talking about .They don't make things up they speak only from what they see and how they perceive it.
Fictional speakers will often times create a atmosphere that can only be seen by them it's not real it's a delusion or an illusion of a portrait they have painted about their lives. How do you determine whether not a person speaks fictional or factual?
As you pay attention to their actions and you watch how they live this will show you if what they're saying is true or false once you realized a person is a fictional speaker you no longer take to heart anything that they say because chances are its not true these are the people you should detach yourself from, It's not that you think you're better than them it's just that they're thinking pattern is dysfunctional and if you continue to entertain them it could cause you a great deal of frustration.
The safest person to attach yourself to is the factual speaker someone that speaks the truth and only speaks on facts this person will be honest with you they will be truthful with you and although you may not like it at times it's usually something that you need to hear that will aid in your growth and maturity. This is the type of relationship that you take with you to the next level this is the person that will not sugarcoat anything. They will tell you exactly what you need to hear. Is this person perfect? absolutely not they make mistakes and have made mistakes but chose to learn from them. The wisdom that they are bestowing upon you is something good and will bring forth good fruits to your life this is the person you want to keep around. Lose fictional and gain factual.




Wednesday, January 20, 2016

50 shades of crazy





There is a large quantity of people walking around with different levels of mental and personality disorders. When gone undiagnosed these people enter into relationships with normal people with normal minds and those bonds create toxic situations. Once the normal person gets sucked in the representative disappears and the disordered mate begins to show signs that they are 50 shades of crazy. The red flags begin to wave to you but at this point your so blinded by the lust that you can't see the flags so you sit in it. Day by day the crazy gets more intense the lies come more frequently. You know their untrust worthy yet you continue to pour more of your attention into them. You will normally find yourself in this place if you have sex with them sooner than that you should. Sex especially if it’s good will further blind you. The crazy person is well aware of this and that’s why they move so quickly in the romance department. they have now manipulated your mind and your body. You know there’s something wrong but they convince you that its right. You begin second guessing things you would have never second guessed before. The crazy intensifies and is now coming by way of selfish acts, frequent mood changes, isolation of themselves from you, and bouts of silence. When you try to find out what’s wrong with them they will find a way to blame you or somebody else for their actions. Crazy does not improve so once you figure out a person is crazy you must not try to fix them or be extra nice thinking they will return the favor because this is not going to happen. Your best bet is to research their behavior and most likely you will find through research that they indeed have either a personality disorder, a mental disorder or both. When people display acts of crazy don’t waste your time trying to deal with it. Many people especially married people will stick with the crazy person because they took a vow and they want to abide by it which will only work if you’re ok with being miserable and married. The definition of crazy reads “mentally deranged especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.” Once someone displays these traits don’t stick around for it to get worst get out and stay out.  The best life for a sane person is to attach themselves to like minded people. Leave the crazies to their craziness and enjoy your life.


Do they know you have a relationship with God?




 When you mention God the devil will flee. Always let people know about your relationship with God. If it's an intimate relationship that means God is guiding you and showing you what you need to see about people so let them know that he is present in your life and you do indeed hear the
"little voice". This piece of information will alter the way they INTENDED to handle you. If they had a toxic agenda, they will flee why? Because when they know God has your ear they won't get too far with a toxic agenda. This behavior will allow you to welcome the right relationships into your space. If you’re not at this place yet on your journey, I encourage you to seek this relationship with God before you seek one with another human being. It's important that you strive for an intimate relationship with God because this is when you can hear him speak into your spirit very clearly and it's no doubt that God is guiding you. You can count on him to guide you in the right direction and if you are reading his word enough and praying enough this allows him to trust you and know that you will be obedient to what he tells you to do. This relationship is not conquered overnight. Everyone is different so you will reach it at the level your supposed to. As long as you’re seeking it you will eventually obtain it. God will hear your prayers and the relationship will begin to form. Once its formed the way you view life will change. You will handle your relationships differently because God will be guiding you instead of you guiding you. when we do things our way many times it doesn't work out your relationship with God will show you everything that you need to know because you are connected with him he will live through you which will enable you to discern healthy relationships vs unhealthy toxic relationships. If you are single and wanting to make some changes and do things differently because doing it your way is not working right now is a good time for you to work on your relationship with God and watch and see how your earthly  relationships begin to change. If your currently in a relationship and you haven’t developed this relationship with God you can still do so by dedicating some time to prayer and talking to God this too will improve your current relationships. We are so busy trying to put together fleshly relationships and becoming frustrated when they don’t work out when what we should be busy doing is developing an intimate relationship with God and allowing him to guide us so that we can enter into good relationships with people that have our best interest at heart. Try it I promise you won’t be disappointed.



Monday, January 4, 2016

What is the condition of their heart?


Psalms 51:10 - Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

The condition of your heart will determine how your life turns out. Without your heart your body could not survive life.Oftentimes we just look at the heart as a organ inside of our body that pumps out blood. What we fail to do is to study the conditions of our hearts as well as the hearts of others. A careful look at the condition of a persons heart can save you a lot of time because if their heart condition is bad the way they treat you will be bad. Below are my picks of different heart conditions. If you see yourself in any of these or if you see people you have a  close connection within these descriptions take time to own the information and do what's needed to continue being big hearted or make some changes and get rid of your bad heart doing this will change the quality of your relationships.

BIG HEART- Big hearted people are generous ,selfless and kind they love to help others and they love to make people feel good they will give their last to anyone in need. It is proven that  having a big heart is a good way to be especially because its the way God designed us all to be.While being a good trait having a big heart can  sometimes bring on big pain.When your heart is open and big it's susceptible to pain. When someone doesn't appreciate your heart or is incapable of being a good person themselves, they will oftentimes take advantage of the big hearted person leaving them with a void. To possess a big heart is to possess a caring heart when you genuinely care about other people and their feelings you rarely do anything that would be hurtful to them this is a huge attribute for the big hearted person, Having a big heart is a wonderful place to be on your journey it's also a difficult place to be especially if you haven't properly studied the conditions of peoples hearts. Big hearted people oftentimes connect themselves to selfish hearted people and the connection never prove fruitful to the big hearted individual this is why having discernment is essential to aid in weeding out the cold, selfish, broken hearted people. Once  this concept is learned  the big hearted person will begin to surround themselves with people that will appreciate their heart and not take advantage of it. Big hearted people are rare in the world today so if you run across one don't take advantage of them be appreciative of them in your life and treat them just as good as they treat you.

HARD HEART- The hard hearted person is the one that's been hurt one too many times be it  at the hands of a parent a family member or friend somebody hurt them and  whenever they tried to have an open heart somebody broke it. Having your heart hurt multiple times can eventually turn it hard. This is a time when you must also pray for discernment and learn who exactly you can give your heart to. hard hearted people normally hurt other people because they don't have any feelings they shut their heart down build a wall around it and no feelings come in or go out if you find yourself in some way connected to a hard hearted person you will never get the respect or the attention that you deserve  because a hard heart doesn't feel. If you find yourself or notice other people behaving in a manner that is nonchalant and non caring it may be because their heart or your heart is hard once you develop a hard heart first recognize it as being a flaw and then you must work on it daily to soften. A hard heart can be  softened with the right prayer and diligent work to be a better person if you find that a person that you're dealing with has a hard heart and they're perfectly okay with it do yourself a favor and disconnect from that person you'll never get what you need from them. Some signs of a hard heart is
1. Non communicative
2.No compassion
3. Shows minimal affection
4.non caring of others feelings

COLD HEART- The cold hearted person can be similar to the hard hearted person the only difference is when a person's heart turns cold it becomes numb. Cold hearted people lack genuine affection . They may show affection towards you sometimes but its only when there's a need. When they want something from you they fake acts of affection to get what they want. This behavior is almost always  temporary. After the need is met they go back to non feeling and when people have  no feelings they are  unsympathetic unfriendly, insensitive and unloving. The cold hearted person has also been damaged  and their past hurts or current hurts has caused their heart to turn cold. The danger of dealing with a cold hearted person is you will hardly never get anything positive from them. Cold hearted people lack joy in their heart because their heart is cold. Oftentimes people's hearts with turn cold when they go through a traumatic life situation or some type of tragedy that causes them to not want to feel anymore they feel like if they don't feel anything then nothing  bad can come upon them. What they  fail to to realize in that statement nothing bad will come upon them but nothing good will come upon them either. A cold heart breeds negativity and in order to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being you have to be able to have compassion and  feelings of love for them and cold hearted people don't have feelings. It's not typical for a cold hearted person to admit that their heart is cold their behavior usually shows the coldness in their heart however if you yourself feel that your heart is cold then you should do a self reflection to find out what caused your heart to turn cold and once you realize what made you that way you can work towards releasing it and  letting  it go. This process of ownership and change will allow your heart to warm back up and your new warm heart will show you that  there are people who's  intentions are not to break your heart or hurt you you just have to surround yourself with the right people. If you are in relationship with a cold hearted person know that you should consider the health of your own heart because if  a warm big  hearted person stays around a cold heated person for an extended amount of time the warm hearted person will most likely pick up bad habits from the cold hearted person. Cold hearted people are the ones we learn to love from a distance and not get too close because cold hearted people give no reciprocity to big hearted people. Here are some signs of a cold hearted person
1. No compassion
2. Non empathetic
3.unemotional
4.moody
5.hard to love
6.insensitive
7.detached

BROKEN HEARTED- Broken hearted people become broken hearted because they have become or allowed themselves to become overwhelmed by grief or disappointment. Most often its  a case of someone they loved disappointing  them or letting them down  and their  heart is broken by it. Many times broken hearted people become despondent , mournful, sad and miserable. They carry these traits because they won't allow the broken pieces of their heart two mend back together most broken hearted people have been affected by another broken hearted person. If not dealt with its a vicious cycle of  the saying hurt people hurt people. The cycle carries on with the broken hearted going  around breaking other people's hearts because they have not yet realized that their heart too has been broken and has not been mended back together. you can determine if a  person is broken hearted by the way they speak to and about you. Broken hearted people normally aim to break hearts because they have failed to take the proper time to heal their own heart. You can spot a brokenhearted person because their mood it's often time sad ,despondent and negative. You may find yourself looking at these behaiviors as them just  having a few bad days or going through a hard time but you will soon notice the mood doesn't change. A heart broken person will not get better until they learn how to mend the pieces of their broken heart and the only way to do thisis the first own it as being a issue in your life and next dealing with the source that broke your heart and forgive it and let it go. This does not mean you must confront the person or situation that broke your heart it means you accept it for what it is and move past it don't allow the one that hurt you continue to rent space in your world once you release them  this is the moment when your broken heart will mend back together.
When your heart condition is not in a good state you must shut off the valve and deal with what's going on.
In the physical sense when your heart gets clogged you have a heart attack
In the spiritual sense if your heart is clogged you lack the ability to show behaviors that are required to be a good person. The only way to cure a bad heart condition is to make positive changes and learn to let go of that which caused your heart to go bad. Embrace that truth and your heart condition will improve.